10 Fun ideas for LDR couples

In these tough times, a large majority of couples which doesn’t share a household is experiencing distance or certain restrictions separating them. We all know how shitty it can get without physical touch, hearing their voice in real life and relying on a miserable wi-fi connection which pixelates your other half so you start questioning whether this is a Minecraft or facetime. On the other hand, these are the times when things become clear (in regards to relationships at least) You’ll realise how much effort is the other person putting into you and how creative they can get with new ways to stay close to you mentally.

Whether you’re new into this long-distance thing because of the COVID-19, or you are someone who has done it even before, these are some tips and ideas which might be helpful.

Warning: Cheesy content below.

1. Send each other a letter or a small present

We are fortunate enough to have texting to rely on, calling when we need to hear the other person’s voice or in general the internet connection to make your lives easier in that sense. But there’s just something special about receiving letter or a package addressed to you personally. It takes you into a Jane Austen’s book and you feel like Jane waiting for her Mr. Bigley to reply. Not to say it feels way more personal than a regular text message or call. Makes you realise the other person took the effort and time in their day to write something by hand and now you’re holding it in yours.

2. Have a movie night together

Sometimes when you say to someone that you’ve watched a film with your dear half who lives in a different country, they might look at you with so many question marks in their eyes. Followed by a curiosity how is that possible. It’s way easier than it seems. You just need to make sure you start the film or TV series episode at the same exact time so you can still share your opinions and feelings. Side note: It’s not a bad idea to choose one TV series and watch one episode of it every night. I can only recommend this because it may become a nice little tradition you have. We did Community and now we’re in the middle of iZombie.

3. Spice things up

Okay yeah, we all knew this needed to be included. Distance sucks and obviously it makes you miss the physical connection. On a certain level you can still feel desired and have the feeling of satisfaction. It is all about creativity and feeling safe and comfortable with what you’re doing. And the key element is communication otherwise it can get real awkward real fast.

4. Have a dinner together

You may order it, you may even cook it while talking to each other which can make the whole experience even more fun. This activity is pretty chill and can be included into your regular talks. But I think what makes it interesting is having the same meal so you feel closer to each other in a sense.

5. Vent, complain, cry if you need it

Sometimes the situation itself can get too much. I cannot tell you how many times I broke down during a videocall (especially now when everything ahead is uncertain). No matter what is upsetting you, it’s always good to talk about it openly, vent and complain a little to your boy/girlfriend. You get it out of your system. But don’t forget to listen to the other side and stay open-minded because they might even help by providing a different point of view.

6. Private concert

Unfortunately, this one isn’t an option for everybody but only for those who are able to play an instrument and have it nearby. It’s a cute idea to either play something or even serenade if you feel like it. You can just enjoy the chill moment listening to the music or even play a guessing game (just be sure you’re not as terrible at guessing as me). And for those even more musically talented, there’s still the option of taking it to another level and making your music.

7. Make a playlist for each other

This one is actually more interesting than it may seem. We did this one shortly after saying the temporary goodbye for the first time. The music can accompany great memories, so if you have a few songs that remind you of certain good times spent together, include them. And on top of that don’t forget to add songs that define you and a few of your favourite ones. It makes the other person think about you and reminisce a little. The bonus being you will probably find new songs you can save to your library.

8. Take a time for yourself

You don’t need to be texting each other 24/7. The importance of this is huge. I believe it is crucial to still have the time off. So many people can easily lose themselves in the relationship and it becomes the only thing they put effort into. I think you should still keep some of your integrity and know how to spend a quality time by yourself. And if you text about everything during the day, it doesn’t leave much for the facetime/call. BUT it’s probably not a bad idea to let the other person know you’re busy doing something and you’ll text them later so they won’t have to worry. This whole thing stands on the type of texting you two have so it’s very subjective.

9. Take online quizzes together

This one may seem a bit lame at first but I promise you it’s so much fun. Simply find a quiz you both like and then share the results. Personally, I like the personality quizzes and tests because you can discuss how accurate they actually might be. If you want specific recommendations, try Color Oracle (https://www.astro.com/cgi/atxgen.cgi?btyp=cf) or Statistical “Which Character” Personality Quiz (https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/characters/).

10. Talk about the ‘what ifs’

Usually people will tell you it’s not good to obsess over the ‘what if’ scenarios. I think you can make an exception here. Talking about what would you do right now if you’d be together is fun and keeps the conversations going. And you can also discuss the future and plan something. If it stays hypothetical or you’ll buy the tickets in advance is up to you.