11. You can't force love.

Trust me, I’m speaking from personal experiences and they are not nice ones.

I used to think love is easy. Easy to manage, have and not lose. I was also a little child thinking my life will turn out like from Disney’s Camp Rock when I was thinking all of that. I think learning the truth about love has been a process of many let downs and reality smacking my face more than one time. To be frank I am not sure I have ever been in love because that would probably require two people feeling it, right?

I’ve always been the one to try to start something, to create it, fight for and take care of it at all costs. I’ve also been the dumb couple of time not seeing the obvious inevitable. I just wanted (and I still want it) somebody to fight for it too for once in my life. But it never happened. And deep down I knew it, but I still kept going like a fool.

What I want to say is don’t settle for less and don’t ever force love. Because it won’t be real. It will always seem kind of fake. Now I’m not saying to just give up on it and quit completely. I’m not saying to become completely passive towards this. It takes a lot of heartbreaks and getting back together to realise that love must be felt at both sides. And to be frank I still didn’t experience that many of them to know anything about love for sure.

All I know is that love is crazy, calming, problematic, beautiful, ugly, dangerous, safe, fulfilling and so much more. It is never easy, but it is always the right decision. Never give up on loving.

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